Maintain and Grow Your Self Esteem
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.
Who is your motivation?
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Darts, at one point or another. These darts will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember.
I have written on optimism:
Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. Never be affraid of making mistakes becauseNo one will appreciate your contributions even if you work thru lunch and dinner, and stay up late to work on projects.Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Try to Be healthy enough to compete, but only when it’s a healthy competition.
Dart #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… Do you wantall these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement goals.
Dart #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Try toChanges challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change is the only constant in our life. Therefore we must be able to accept and thrive when change occurs.I believe in that
Dart #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. Never think that it’s enough becauseIt might grab you by the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking but don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your circle of friends. You have your own identity.
If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Are You Born With It?
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent.Think that
God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay strong especially when things and people around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we must choose the right equipment to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of more options.Do you know
Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.Make a
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline.
Self esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be positiveBe content and happy and . Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to self improvement.